There is nothing like losing a child that says I need to help this person. I need to do something for this person, send a card, send flowers, make creative little memories, names in the sand and etc. Its all so wonderful and appreciated. Its so nice to know that others care because there is nothing you can say to me that is going to make me feel better that my 18 month old is gone. Yet when I open the mail to a beautiful little rock that has Megan's name on it, or a picture of Megan's name in the sand from someone who went on vacation, anything and everything that lets me know you care, that you are trying to be there for me it means so much and I don't think I have properly thanked people enough for that.
Its all these little things that people do to reach out to you that make things just a little easier. That kindness and the sadness that you share with me, not forgetting that she was here. That she is important still and will not be forgotten.
Knowing that you when you think of me, you hug your children a little closer, you give thanks for your blessings and when things are bad and you are at your wits end. You remember me and it isn't so bad and It makes me feel like I have reached out to people and that they understand just a little. Id still rather be on the other side, but ..... im not.