tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-732774325516406842.post3644487071172944227..comments2023-03-26T04:04:00.876-07:00Comments on Life after the death of a toddler: PTSDJennyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13964282196898709053noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-732774325516406842.post-48339038784796802592012-07-19T20:09:57.010-07:002012-07-19T20:09:57.010-07:00Firstly, I am so very sorry about your daughter, M...Firstly, I am so very sorry about your daughter, Megan. So very very sorry. <br /><br />Secondly, perhaps the item below could give you a little peace of mind. <br /><br />C. <br /><br />http://www.amazon.com/Snuza-Halo-Baby-Movement-Monitor/dp/B002ITOC7S<br /><br />Product Description<br />Peace of Mind at the Press of a Button<br />Superior Sensor: Placed next to baby's abdomen, detects even the slightest irregularity in breathing<br />Snuza Halo detects even the slightest movement and will alert you if your baby's movements are very weak or fall to less than 8 movements per minute. <br />If no movement at all is detected for a period of 15 seconds, Halo will vibrate gently. Often this vibration is enough to rouse the baby, and Halo will revert to monitoring mode. <br />After three vibration/rouse incidents, the Rouse Warning will alert you to the fact that your baby's movements have stopped for 15 seconds on three occasions. <br />If no further movement is detected for another 5 seconds, an alarm will sound to alert you.<br />-Small - fits onto baby's diaper<br />-Portable<br />-Easy-to-use<br />-Vibration stimulation after 15 seconds<br />-Rouse Warning<br />-Audible alarm after 20 seconds<br />-Movement-rate Indicator to warn about weak or infrequent movement<br />Snuza safely and conveniently monitors your baby's every movement. <br />Clip the Snuza onto the waistband of your baby's diaper and switch on. <br />The flexible sensor detects your baby's tummy movement. <br />A built-in vibrating stimulator on the Halo model gently rouses baby 15 seconds after movement stops. <br />If there is still no movement after 20 seconds, an alarm will sound to alert you to take immediate action. <br />Snuza can be used in conjunction with a baby sound or video monitor so that it can be heard in another room. <br />Snuza monitors are particularly useful for co-sleeping twins and multiples, where an under-mattress monitor is not effective. <br />Snuza is the only type of movement monitor that can be used if baby is sleeping in your bed.<br />Kit Includes:<br />SNUZATM Halo baby movement monitor with award-winning infant health care information <br />Instruction manual<br />1-877-737-9677<br />Made in South Africa<br />Please Note: This item has been built to U.S.Constancenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-732774325516406842.post-77601872985047176512012-06-29T19:45:55.234-07:002012-06-29T19:45:55.234-07:00My saving grace.. The angel care monitor.. I swear...My saving grace.. The angel care monitor.. I swear the only thing that actually gives me some peace of mind, and at least partly erases that blinding fear each time you walk into the bedroom. I still have it and I'm on my third baby since my Bella died, almost 10 years ago. I still need it.RememberingBellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06651815120313677930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-732774325516406842.post-28892336707017115672012-06-06T20:55:06.618-07:002012-06-06T20:55:06.618-07:00Im so sorry! It makes perfect sense why you would ...Im so sorry! It makes perfect sense why you would feel this way though. I hope you can find some peace and some sleep very soon!! Praying for some calm days for you! Big hugsbrigettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762214896655486508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-732774325516406842.post-50472001906278385332012-06-06T08:29:36.613-07:002012-06-06T08:29:36.613-07:00I was the exact same way. I finally went on meds ...I was the exact same way. I finally went on meds to help because i was not sleeping at all (for 8 months!). Now I still think about what would/could happen but I don't check on him consistently throughout the night.<br /><br />I feel your pain, it is horrible. those moments in the night where you think you are finding another child lifeless is scary and terrible. <br /><br />Thinking of you ((hugs))Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16070112399406592271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-732774325516406842.post-28662193176550268072012-06-04T13:26:37.158-07:002012-06-04T13:26:37.158-07:00Reading this made me so sad. Saylor only sleeps o...Reading this made me so sad. Saylor only sleeps on his stomach too and at first I was a complete nervous wreck. I will think I am doing really good too and then something will bring back all those fears and feelings. With me I think he is so big, so healthy, I shouldn't be worried. Just a couple of night ago he had fallen asleep on the couch and I was on the computer and doing laundry. I looked over at him and he looked dead to me. I almost threw up and started just bawling my head off. I am so sorry. This stuff is dang hard. I am terrified how I will be with the new baby too. I feel the same way. I am so tired. I don't know if I have it in me again, to constantly check and worry about an infant. The flashbacks are the worst. Hang in there sweetie.Jordanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15273482353110315205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-732774325516406842.post-3652688994464180902012-06-04T11:45:32.840-07:002012-06-04T11:45:32.840-07:00I think I will always be terrified my child may di...I think I will always be terrified my child may die now. It is just a harsh reality for us. Even if I make it through to a healthy rainbow I will be peranoid now of everything else like SIDS, strepdicocal pneumonia etc etc I wish you some peace and comfort and a way to battle these fears everyday.xomichellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07960223886511130664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-732774325516406842.post-2294204791947295672012-06-04T06:12:23.236-07:002012-06-04T06:12:23.236-07:00thinking of you. i understand. our little one has ...thinking of you. i understand. our little one has decided that she loves rolling onto her stomach when she sleeps. so i refuse to let her sleep alone right now. i have had a few moments where i have walked out of the room for a sec, and come back to see her face down, and panic. :(Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17906643480459302192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-732774325516406842.post-47422817902190870972012-06-04T04:23:28.174-07:002012-06-04T04:23:28.174-07:00((((hugz))))
Jamie((((hugz))))<br /><br />JamieJamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06577680603923217492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-732774325516406842.post-69102640135181060342012-06-03T18:59:58.834-07:002012-06-03T18:59:58.834-07:00Jenny,
I think that what you are experiencing is n...Jenny,<br />I think that what you are experiencing is normal and to be expected. Even though two and a half years seems like an eternity without our children, I think that you have come a long way. Be kind to yourself and what you are feeling. If you do decide to speak to somone, I hope that they can give you some techniques or strategies to get throug those tough days, minutes or even seconds.<br /><br />Thinking of you,<br />Marisamarisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17945247463329704602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-732774325516406842.post-36805833663750038972012-06-03T16:30:16.351-07:002012-06-03T16:30:16.351-07:00I'm sorry you are struggling so much! I wish ...I'm sorry you are struggling so much! I wish you peace and hope you can be lead to the help you need. <br /><br />Much love,<br />MonicaMonicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03549547447249404443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-732774325516406842.post-24810065146430703672012-06-03T10:53:02.791-07:002012-06-03T10:53:02.791-07:00Im sorry, after loosing our boy during a nap. For...Im sorry, after loosing our boy during a nap. For the next 3 months I will wake up and shake my girls because they sleep so deeply it seems like they are not breathing I have a 18 month and 3 year old. My husband is completely against looking for help but everyone copes differently. Your feelings are normal. My friend who loss her daughter at 2 years old tells me all the time that your fear for your other children never goes away its just learning how to live with it. I have zoom cameras in my girls room now and I can see if they are moving because Im terrify. Specially with the doctors telling me my son was at the bottom list of risk for SIDS. Many huggs and hopefully it gets better.Jayden's Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05687674253192563095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-732774325516406842.post-72235829705405556632012-06-03T07:21:07.273-07:002012-06-03T07:21:07.273-07:00Oh Jenny - so sorry to read you're having a ru...Oh Jenny - so sorry to read you're having a rubbish time.<br /><br />As you know, I've just been back to the doctor to see about the possibility of speaking to a professional. I think it is probably common to think of it at around our stage - the thing is, I think it is normal at this point (or typical, if you like) to still be having significant problems with our children dying. I actually don't think either of us are as troubled as we were - but it is exhausting that it keeps on going on and on. Am off back to the doctor to see what professional help he has figured out on Thursday - as you know, so far, our "chats" haven't really been helping things!<br /><br />Being tired is awful. You need to bear in mind that it alters your perspective, and you might feel things are worse than they really are. You've been doing really well till so recently - I think we both have. This is just a hiccup - and I am convinced things will fall back into place soon.<br /><br />I would try and focus on finding some practical solutions that help until your head settles down. If you are more relaxed in the day time nap, can someone else take Emily and let you sleep then? If I was close by, I would offer to come over and watch Amanda sleep, so that you can relax for a while. Is there anyone nearby who could do that?<br /><br />I think it is natural that you're freaking about the front sleeping. After all, for the first 6 months you were really focused on this good advice to minimise her SIDS risk. Now she can turn over, I think you need to train your brain to the idea that it no longer applies - it is fine for her to sleep on her front. <br /><br />I think what people forget is - we are not dealing with something that happened 2 years plus ago - we have had so much to deal with since then. Having a new baby and being filled with anxiety that they wouldn't make it is a terrible thing for us to have lived through. I remember in the early weeks, not wanting to buy next stage up clothes, in case she died before she got to wear them. I remember you had similar thoughts. That, just that in itself, is a bloody horrible thing to live through. No wonder we are still a bit screwed up!<br /><br />Anyway that was a bit of ramble..Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08189847375191755096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-732774325516406842.post-11945153317684927312012-06-03T00:31:46.106-07:002012-06-03T00:31:46.106-07:00I'm sorry you're having a hard time. I...I'm sorry you're having a hard time. I've been following your blog for quite a while and I never understood why you were so against talking to someone about what you're dealing with. People talk to professionals about MUCH less significant things every day and even if you get the smallest help from it, it would be worth it right? I've talked to counselors before. There is definitely no shame in it. I hope you can find some way to sleep better soon, because I agree with you - it's so hard to function when you have young kids and you're not getting enough sleep. Good luck!!Monica Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16552978548019349392noreply@blogger.com